Holidays are typically viewed as a joyful time of year for many, but they can also be bittersweet for dysfunctional families or relatives experiencing grief. Members of the former group are often trained to expect a holiday riddled with explosive arguments and general disappointments, while anguished individuals of the latter group typically find themselves missing the days their loved ones were here. Fortunately, as with many situations in life, things have the power to change.
Mariah Carey — long been dubbed the Queen of Christmas — didn’t always have the luxury of the lavish celebrations she and her family can now experience. During an interview with Elle, she discussed the holiday seasons she had growing up and how they helped to fuel the curations she is now able to celebrate.
“I think it’s just that longing that I had as a child, that I always wanted things to be perfect for the holidays. And they never were,” she said. “It was always somebody ruining the moment, always these dysfunctional family members who came around and foiled everything. And so I just made a pact with myself that I wasn’t going to allow that to happen anymore. “After I kind of emerged from my first relationship–slash–marriage, I created the Christmases that I wanted to have.”
The singer committed to her goals to have a great holiday season and has since created a Christmas tradition that includes visits to “a snowy place” complete with reindeer and Santa Claus — a protocol she maintains would exist even if she “didn’t have kids.” Now, the holiday is one she anxiously awaits.
“I do live from Christmas to Christmas; it’s the only thing I look forward to every year,” Carey told Elle. “Well, it’s not the only thing…but it’s truly the best time of year for me.”
The Grammy-winning star breaks the notion that a trying holiday, or more generally a difficult life must always remain that way. With just a vision, positivity and a simple change in mentality, it’s possible to create the life you have always dreamed for yourself.